Often, when feminists raise the issue of internalized misogyny, we’re berated as sex-negative prudes who just want to oppress women all over again. But that’s hardly the case. In this episode of The FREQ Show, we break down exactly what we mean–and what we DON’T mean–when we refer to internalized misogyny, and we demonstrate why confronting the problem of internalized misogyny is so important to achieving the overall goals of feminism.

See the Wondermark strip about sea lions referenced in the video.

This brand new episode of The FREQ Show is all about breaking down the often insidious and invisible ways in which misogyny works, and what allows so many people to carry it around and to perpetuate it without even realizing they’re doing it. We discuss the differences between misogyny and sexism and talk about how men suffer under patriarchy as well, and then respond to some of the most common arguments used to suggest that there’s no longer a need for feminism in our culture. Finally, Carolyn presents us with a not-so-foolproof plan for eliminating misogyny once and for all.

In this season of The FREQ Show, Ebony and Carolyn are joining the fun as we take you on a guided tour through many of the cultural forces that shape our lives every day, whether we realize it or not. Catch our previous episode about privilege, and stay tuned for the rest of the season as we illuminate the interconnected web of forces such as white supremacy and misogyny that have a profound impact on how we live while simultaneously remaining seemingly invisible to so many.

This episode owes a debt to the work of Ijeoma Oluo. We strongly encourage anyone interested in issues of race, feminism, and intersectionality to read her book, So You Want to Talk About Race.

We’ve also just kicked off our annual fundraising campaign which is running through the month of May! This year, we’ve set a goal of $35,000 so that we can continue doing our vital work: producing video series like The FREQ Show, our podcasts, written pieces, workshops, and more in our ongoing mission to cultivate a more equitable media landscape and a more just online world.

Of course, not all family disputes are as innocuous as that, and sometimes we face the prospect of real ideological tension and conflict with relatives over the sweet potatoes and cranberry sauce. But don’t worry! We’re here to help with a quick video offering up seven simple but effective pointers that can help you navigate the stormy seas of racist uncles, homophobic grandmas and other potential sources of turkey day trouble. (Table-flipping not required but highly recommended.)